Save yourself from getting hijacked by negative thoughts!
Whether we realize and acknowledge it or not,most of us are reasonably doing well in our lives. Despite the struggles and problems that we face, all women know how to find their way out and are giving their best in all circumstances. But most of us have a few negative “sound-tracks” playing in our heads in background.
So when someone compliments us, instead of feeling happy and recharged, we hear in our mind “ i am not that good” “I’m not doing that well/I didn’t do that well” “Other people are judging me poorly”
These negative thoughts are like your own Evil DJ, playing the negative soundtracks in a loop!
Slowly, we lose confidence in our own abilities, and the seemingly easy tasks suddenly feel impossible to do, and also come with their own negative thoughts, self doubt and hopelessness.
Next time, you have negative thoughts playing in the background of your mind, try these simple tricks-
Am I stuck in my head right now?
Is there any evidence to support these thoughts?
When something doesn’t go as well as you hoped, don’t waste time repeatedly criticizing yourself or dwelling on what went wrong.
It’s important to avoid lingering regret. Research shows that, if you only focus on regret and self-blame, you are more likely to perform worse in a similar situation in future.
Instead, create a problem-solving and growth mindset by asking yourself questions about what other, additional actions you could have taken to improve the outcome. Try to ask open-ended questions, especially those beginning with ‘What’ or ‘How’. This is called ‘counterfactual’ thinking.
Okay, so you just lost an assignment or an opportunity to competition. The next thing that you do is go in the brooding mode, tell everyone to lay off till you feel better, keep thinking about it, and tell everyone from maid to the stranger in coffee shop how bad you are. Relax, drama queen! Tell yourself to snap out of it. Treat yourself with some respect and same friendliness that you would an old friend. Love your grit, ability to do so much, and appreciate the fact that you are still able to do it.
Remember that your thoughts are not always the facts, and sometimes, it helps to keep out the noise and keep doing what you are good at. Sooner or later, the results will show, and you will be in a position to have happy tunes playing up in your head!So instead of becoming a drama queen, be a QWEEN!
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