Valentine’s day has arrived. Spring is in the air, and women who are too busy to notice what’s going around outside of their daily routine are also looking for something red to wear in their wardrobes.
As February 14th arrives, so does the long list of expectations that comes along with it. If you are one half of a couple, it’s crunch time to place flower orders and make reservations. If you haven’t, then you may be dreading February 15th. But what if this year you choose to do things a little differently?
The newspapers and magazines, even internet is over flowing with pieces about Valentine’s Day and love and respect etc etc. According to website Trak.in, Indians spent a whopping 18000 crores on gifts on Valentines day in 2014.The figure is likely to get tripled this year.
What if, when you make your list of valentines, you include yourself this time? Showing yourself some love this Valentine’s Day could be your sweetest decision yet . This is one relationship, the most important one, that needs to be loved, cherished, taken care of and respected the most. The relationship you have with yourself.
We place such a measured focus on relationships and couples and love, that we forget that loving ourselves is the most important thing that we could do in our life.
It’s become conventional wisdom that we’re all supposed to love ourselves, no matter what our relationship status.
And in this heavily selfied , highly Instagrammed world, you have to realise that loving yourself is also an important matter on the agenda called life.
Loving yourself is not the prerogative of women looking for someone to love, in fact, if you can’t love yourself, how will you love anyone else? But for most women in our country, loving oneself goes out of the window the moment someone else walks into their lives. Out go their dreams , passions, hopes and ambitions. Everything is done as the utmost duty towards that one person they love, and all their feelings and hopes are put away like album full of old pictures, taken out from time to time, looked at, and sighed upon.
I am not saying to throw away the red roses or that heart shaped pillow, or to cancel your date with your spouse. In fact, I think those things are very important. What I don’t want all of us women to continue to do is to let ourselves get lost like an old photo in this melee.
If you don’t take the time to appreciate ourselves, how can we expect that others will?In fact, the more you neglect yourself, the more your other relationships suffer.If you are constantly doing things for others and leaving yourself as the last priority, all you will be left with will be feelings of bitterness and self resentment and your other relationshops will suffer as a consequence.
Will you be considered too selfish if you took care of yourself?I don’t think so. I truly believe that taking care of you is one of the most important things that you can do for the ones you love.So how will you show yourself some love? It doesn’t really mean sending yourself a dozen roses or a box of chocolates.It is more about taking the time to think about the things that you really want to do in your life, and really want for yourself and what makes you feel good, and getting rid of the people and commitments that do not fit into that category.
One of the best things about loving yourself is that it is contagious. We are all drawn to and attracted by that person in a room that signals the right levels of confidence because it is the type of easy-going confidence that makes us all feel better for having met them. Self-lovers make us feel better about ourselves not worse.
It is perfectly possible to love yourself but still strive to change for the better. It’s about having values but not being overly judgmental or intolerant of others. We are all work in progress in terms of self-development and what best way to show our true love for self than Meet Yourself !
With QWEEN, let’s discover the real you.
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